At the end of the day yesterday, I was extremely discouraged, frustrated, and depressed. I woke this morning, leaning towards another day of the same. But I stopped myself. I pulled myself back and straightened myself out.
At the end of the day, it’s hard to have the strength to pull yourself out of a negative spiral. Like any bad habit, the best option is not to get started in the first place. It’s actually easier to avoid a negative spiral than to escape one.
Every morning, I try to start with intentions. How am I going to live this day? How am I going to interact with others? What do I expect my day to look like? (Here’s a hint: if you start the day thinking, today is totally going to suck? You have pretty much written the script.)
Every afternoon, I name five things I’m grateful for as I drive home from work. I try to avoid statements like “I’m so grateful work is over for the day,” because those just have the exact opposite effect from gratitude. I do much better with statements like “I’m grateful for the beautiful weather.” “I’m grateful for my tribe, especially my wife Kathryn.” “I’m grateful for my ability to face life with a sense of humor.” These generate more gratitude, and really help clear out the dust of a difficult day.
It’s Friday, and most of you are probably already feeling good. But if you’re not, take a moment. Decide what kind of day you’re going to have, then set about creating it. And when the day is done, be thankful for the day you’ve had. It will really make a difference.
So much love and light to you all–
I’m feeling a great deal of joy today. Usually, by Friday mornings, I’m so filled with stress and frustration that I start off the day scrunched up and knotted. Today was no different. I took several moments in meditation to clear myself of the negativity, like I always do.
But then I did something different. I filled the empty spaces left behind. It’s not enough to clear out the negativity. All that does is create a vacuum where more negativty can just seep in. You have to consciously replace that negativity with something positive. Whether it’s love, Christ-consciousness, agape, whatever–fill it up.
I reached out this morning to Hestia, my unlikely patron goddess. I say unlikely because Hestia is known mainly for being the original Domestic Goddess, and I ain’t nothing of the sort.
But Hestia is more than a Olympian home-body. Hestia is hearth. Hestia is home. Hestia is stability and family and trust and all things being where they belong.
In ancient Greece, every home had a hestia, or sacred hearth. Every town had a hestia. When young people left their family home to start their own home, a flame from the family hestia was brought to the new home to light the new hearth.
I imagined the light of hestia filling the empty spaces where I’d cleared out the negativity. I imagined the light of my home, my family, my tribe, my culture, my history–all filling the empty spaces where negativity usually lurks.
I’m smiling now. No, the BS factor hasn’t been reduced. In fact, it’s been ratcheted up a notch or twelve.
But I am home. Home is inside of me. And that, as another Domestic Goddess is wont to say, is a good thing.
Peace, my friends – Deb