If you read my earlier post, you know I’ve been in “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” mode. Not a space I enjoy inhabiting, but that’s where I am.
In times of high stress and difficulty, self-care is more important than ever. Taking a well-earned nap, spending time with loved ones, getting in that workout that reinvigorates you – these are crucial to surviving the onslaught of modern life.
Too many of us get into a grind mentality when things get stressful. We put on our good little Pilgrim caps and tell ourselves to push through, hang tough, and fight until the bitter end. And if a brutal New England winter is threatening to starve your entire settlement, then yes, this is a great mind-set.
But when your challenge is a job that throws more and more paperwork at you, or a house whose clutter has almost TARDIS-like qualities, a different strategy might better suit your needs.
Sometimes you just have to say no. Sometimes you have to stand firm and cry enough. It doesn’t make you less of a person to draw strong, sensible boundaries against the forces that threaten to take over your time, your energy, and your life. Nobody gets an extra cookie in Heaven for workaholism.
So, take this long weekend, if you’re lucky enough to have one, and give it to yourself. Wrap it up in a bow, and let yourself enjoy it.
The grind will still be there on Tuesday. And hopefully, you’ll be in a better position to face it.
Good night, dear souls. Sweet dreams to you all.
Almost forgot–music to dream by – Nocturne In Eb Major, Op. 9, No. 2 by Frederic Chopin
It’s rainy, gloomy, and I’ve already been mocked online for my beliefs. What a great day to call in to life and just hide my head (metaphorically) under the pillow, right?
Not so much. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been talking a lot about choosing the kinder of two options, whenever possible. But that doesn’t just apply to when the sun is shining and everything is going well. It’s on the gloomy, snarly days that kindness is most needed.
So, you say, wouldn’t taking a day to just pull back be the kindest option? Not necessarily. Pulling back is absolutely necessary once in a while, for reflection, recharging, and self-care. But when pulling away from uncomfortable situations because your standard response (as has often been the case with me), it is no longer a kindness. It’s a crutch.
Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is force yourself to do the hard thing, get it over with, and learn the lesson. Sometimes a temporary discomfort is better than the long-term effects of avoidance.
I’m not saying that you should grind your teeth and get ‘er done without regard to your own needs and desires. I’m just saying that sometimes the kindest option is not the easiest.
Be bwave, fellow travelers. We shall perservere.